When my daughter was in sixth grade she asked me what made the popular kids popular. I told her it was because they told everyone they were the popular kids. It wasn’t because they had more money, were prettier, were smarter, it was because they decided they were going to be popular and did what they had to do to achieve that goal. First up, they told the other kids if they wanted to be cool, they needed to hang out with the popular kids ~ meaning, them.
Confidence can go a long way in determining how others view us. A friend of mine, who is a terrific writer, was miffed a few weeks ago how another writer was able to snag a publishing contract when they wrote similar stories and neither story was far better or worse than the other.
My friend is adorable, but not terribly aggressive. The other writer is.
Does that mean my friend should go out and strut around like she’s Queen of the Publishing World? Hmmm, maybe.
By walking with a bit of swagger and having the confidence to tell the world you’re popular, then guess what? Pretty soon the world will start believing it, too. But it’s a balancing act. Too much swagger and you look like a jerk, but with enough humility and grace, your confidence glows and people will actually want to be near you just to get a little of that light.
I once read a line in a book whose title is now lost to memory, but the phrase stayed with me, it said simply, “You create your own reality”. It’s an ideology similar to what The Secret and Dr. Phil tell us ~ what you put out into the universe will come back to you.
So go ahead, put a little swagger in your step. Believe you are the Queen or King of Publishing, and don’t let anyone knock you down.
If someone doesn’t like your book, your photographs, your hairstyle, that’s fine. They are welcome to their opinion, but you ~ YOU are amazing and everything you do is awesome.
Believe it. Live it. Be it.
And with that, I send you out into the world today with one admonition ~ be amazing.
Share with us what you do to remember you’re fabulous. How do you put swagger in your step? What’s one thing you’re going to do today to be amazing?