Forget the Haters and Follow Your Bliss


My husband left me.

Early Wednesday morning he boarded a plane for Dallas where he would spend five days with other like minded souls strategizing, risk taking, and generally geeking out with board games.

That’s right, my husband is a hard-core gamer. As you can tell from the picture above, he’s not alone. That room is filled with geeks of all shapes and sizes who descended upon Dallas to get their board gaming fix. If you look closely, you’ll see there are women there as well, this is not a men-only hobby. Which I think is awesome.

The ‘Game Room’ where gamers can find new and exciting things to play.

While I will play the occasional game with him, I don’t necessarily share David’s love of all things board gaming, but I fully support and encourage him to go to conventions like BGGCon (that’s short for Board Game Geek, you can check out their website here for way more gaming stuff).

I don’t begrudge David his hobby because, well, writing was a hobby for me for many years before I got serious about it and finished a manuscript. When David was younger, his hobby was writing code for video games and that led to his dream job at Rockstar. A hobby isn’t alwaysΒ just a hobby.

Just a few of David’s games. You won’t find Parcheesi in this group.

It’s interesting to me the reactions I get from people when I tell them David is into board gaming. They almost always equate the board games with what they know ~ Sorry, Monopoly, Candy Land, but the games David and his friends play are intense. Some take several hours to complete and others have rule books as thick as a novella!

Board gaming isn’t for everyone. I get it. But I love that David is doing something he enjoys despite what others think of it.

Some people are into thrilling sports, like Susie Lindau.Β She is always skiing or bike riding, or doing things that make my heart flutter like a hummingbird. But she loves it and I love reading about her adventures. Others are photographers in their spare time, like Amber West. When she’s not being a super fabulous mom, she’s writing books and taking amazing pictures. Guess what? Her book is out TODAY! Hop on over to her blog and check it out. And still others are super crafty, like Robyn Hood Black, who was featured on Julie Hedlund’s blog this week. She hangs out with wolves and in her spare time makes gorgeous writing related items for sale on Etsy. By the way, Julie put together a trip to Italy just for women writers. If you haven’t read about the retreat yet, be sure to stop by her blog and get the info.

Remember on Tuesday when we talked about Being Amazing With A Little Swagger? This post is sort of a follow up to that advice. Take that confidence into every aspect of your life, whether it be your job, your marriage, your hobby. Forget about the haters who don’t ‘get’ what you’re doing and follow your bliss!

Sure, some people may think David and his friends are weird for wanting to play board games. I think people who jump out of airplanes are weird! Seriously. Making stuff up and putting it on paper is a little weird, if you really think about it. We’re all weird. Which is what makes us all super cool.

I’m glad my husband left me. He’s following his bliss.

When I see him on Sunday I expect he’ll be tired, perhaps a bit scruffy, but happy. He’ll be in the afterglow of the convention and inspired by all the creativity he was surrounded with all weekend. And who knows what will come of that inspiration. Perhaps a board game of his own design, or something else. You just never know and that’s a pretty cool thing.

What’s something you do that people think is kind of weird? Got any cool hobbies like Robyn’s that you can profit from? When you were young was there a hobby you had that led to a career? What’s your favorite hobby now?


25 thoughts on “Forget the Haters and Follow Your Bliss

  1. Way to hook your readers with the first sentence girl! It’s fun to read about unique hobbies. I collect old table linens and I’m constantly on the lookout for more. I’m always shocked when I find something of good quality workmanship that isn’t stained or damaged—and I try to take care of them in kind. I love using them when I have a party or get-together. My daughter collects vintage postcards. At first she collected them for the great old pictures and graphics but then after I was so taken with the language and the hand-writing, she became fascinated too. I love looking through her collection and hope she continues. If she doesn’t, I’m just gonna have to do it. LOL. Fun post! I hope your hubby has a terrific time!

    • Haha! I’m working on hooky first sentences, glad you liked it.

      The idea of collecting postcards is intriguing! Where does she find them? At antique stores? I love both of your passions ~ old table linens would be fun to collect. There are so many things you can do with them.

      Dave had a great time, thanks!

  2. Both of my kids were home today so I am just getting on my computer now. Whew!
    Thanks so much for the inclusion. I so appreciate the shout!
    I think that a lot of friends find it strange that I have made friends through blogging. They also can’t imagine that I enjoy writing all day. But hey, that is my bliss. πŸ™‚
    Thanks again Tameri! Enjoy your time!

    • You are so welcome, Susie! I just love your blog and your adventurous spirit.

      I have friend who don’t ‘get’ my online friendships, as if they aren’t as ‘real’ as the ones I have in person. Not so, I say! Some of my online friends know me better than the ones I have in person.

      Writing all day IS bliss. I’m so glad you are following yours!

  3. Another inspiring post, Tameri! I love that you and your husband support each other’s passions. Mountain climbing and hiking are my hubby’s gaming equivalent. We compare his away climbs to my writers’ conferences.

    Music is a hobby I’ve been reconnecting to lately. I think it’s important to have secondary creative hobbies when the primary is also the job! πŸ™‚

    • Supporting each other is super important in any relationship. I can’t imagine what I’d do if David didn’t support my writing! It’s only fair I return the favor. Plus, it makes him happy, which makes me happy. Win-win.

      You are so right about having secondary hobbies! It’s nice to step away from the job and have other outlets to be creative or just zen-like. I’m so glad you’re reconnecting with your music. Hopefully that will mean a cd sometime in the near future?!

  4. What a beginning! I knew it couldn’t possibly be true but it was still a shocker! This is a wonderful post, Tameri! There are a lot of couples who don’t ‘get’ each others hobbies and that’s such a shame. As great as it is to share interests, it’s equally important to have your own ‘stuff’. I’ve been taking photos since I was 6 years old … hmm, that’s a lot of years … and I am still seldom without a camera. Telling stories through photography is what led me to writing.

    • Sorry for the shocker! It was kind of fun to be silly like that.

      Your photos are gorgeous, Patricia. I never knew it was picture taking that led you to writing, that’s fascinating! And I totally agree ~ we don’t have to be involved with the other’s hobby, but it’s important to support it all the same. It’s just another way of saying, “I love you”. At least, to me it is.

  5. I didn’t know your man was a board game geek!! My hubs, brother, and brother in law have a regular game night each week – my brother has a room in his house that may as well be a board game store.

    I just finished playing Star Fluxx with the hubs, and recently purchased a couple of new games for him! Yay for geeks!

    And thank you so much for mentioning my book release!!

      • What?!?! This is yet another reason I wish we lived closer together! Dave would love to have a regular weekly place to play games. He’s got a few guys around here who will usually get together if he asks, but it’s not a set thing. He was hosting a board gaming day, but then they went into crunch mode at work and it stopped. When they’re out of crunch, I hope they start it up again.

        I’ve never heard of Star Fluxx, I wonder if I’d like it. My favorite is Vegas Showdown, but I also like Carcasonne, Diamont, and something else whose title escapes me at the moment. Oh! 10 Days in the USA. I tend toward the games where you can hold something, not like card games where the cards mean different things.

        I asked Dave what his favorite game is and he said that was like asking Sophie her choice of kid. Then he said if he had to choose, probably Peloponnes. He came home all excited about a few games he played in Dallas, so that might change if he gets the games for Christmas. πŸ˜‰

        Here’s a link to the game if you want to check it out:

        I’m so excited you’re a board game geek, too!

  6. Loved the first sentence, too! And I was sincerely hoping it wasn’t what you wanted us all to think, lol. Whew!

    I don’t get the whole gaming thing. I’m more of a spider solitaire, Mah Jongg, Trivial Pursuit, Pictionary kind of person. Put a game control in my hand and my kids will laugh their butts off at me. But they have a few gaming systems, and every Christmas and birthday will find me at Game Stop, gift list in hand. If, for some extremely unusual reason I DON’T have a list (think alien invasion, free brownies at the local bakery, Robert Downey Jr. showed up for an afternoon of snuggle time with me, etc…), then I’ll by a Game Stop gift card.

    To each his or her own. I don’t want to be judged for writing, and actually enjoying researching things like outhouses, so I try not to judge others. The only time I have a problem with things they enjoy is when they try to convince me I’d enjoy it, too. Some people can be very pushy about it…I do NOT like Chinese food, sis…and no matter how often you try to convince me otherwise, I’m STILL not gonna like it. I’m also never going to try skydiving, bungee jumping or the Demon Drop at Cedar Point. I know what I like, and that’s why I do it.

    Do I have any hobbies? You know, I really don’t know anymore. My life is writing, blogging, editing…and trying to like Twitter. When I get to where I want to be (hopefully in the next year or so), I’ll reevaluate and find out what I like to do then. I can say with complete certainty though…that list still won’t include Chinese food, bungee jumping or rides that make me feel like I jumped off the edge of the Grand Canyon. πŸ™‚

    Hope you’re enjoying your mini-vacation, Tameri. And that your hubby is having a blast! πŸ™‚

    • Oh. My. Gawd! I am laughing so hard right now. You’re hilarious, Kristy! I am so with you on the scary rides, bungee jumping, and sky diving. No thanks. Not ever. Chinese food I can take, but please don’t try to convince me I’ll like sushi. Nope, not going to happen. Raw fish is like eating boogers.

      I certainly hope Robert Downey Jr. shows up at your house one day soon. He’s much more fun than any video game ever!

      • Tameri…you need to reword that one sentence to read, “Eating raw fish is what I IMAGINE it would be like to eat boogers.” πŸ˜‰

        And I’m with you…ick to sushi. If it’s meat, or anything that I would call meat (including fish and poultry), it had better be cooked…everything but a steak would have to be well done, too.

  7. Thanks for the shout-out, Tameri, and for your great post. My hubby and I have tucked notes in each other’s suitcases as each goes off to the occasional workshop etc. to “do our own thing” for 28 years now. The board game weekend looked fun – hope your husband enjoyed. Have an inspiring, fun Thanksgiving!

    • You’re welcome, Robyn. It was so much fun to get to know you and your wolves.

      Aww, that is such a sweet idea! I might have to borrow it the next time David goes out of town. He had a blast last weekend, so I hope he does it more often.

      You have a great Thanksgiving as well!

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